How To Make A Really, Really Good Party Invite

July 16th, 2010

First of all – I much prefer the hand written invite as it is far more personal.

Second – Remember to include the crucial details like the date!

Third – It helps to draw the eye to the date with fabulous illustrations.

Don’t forget time and place!  Try to be as particular as you can, but if you can’t be super particular, you might want to add in some more awesome illustrations.  This will help to distract your guests from their frustrations.

Instruct your guests as to what they should contribute.

Don’t be afraid to be specific.

You may even have to get a little snippy about it, but don’t worry – it will only make the party better.

I like to give my guests options.  Not a lot of options, but enough to make them feel a teensy bit empowered.

Always include a map.


Cross out any bad maps that you may have drawn by accident.

I struggle with RSVP’s because I hate to obligate people with my party invites and let’s face it – an RSVP does have a certain Nazi like obligation to it.  So I like to give people an out.  I tell them that it is perfectly okay to NOT RSVP, but if they don’t, they may not get any food.  This puts us all on the same page.

This is the hand drawn map that I slaved over for this invite, but I tried to make it look like I just threw it together!  Because that helps people to relax!

Always include a key with your maps.

Because what hell is map without key?

Help your guests with pronunciation.

That way when they stop and ask for directions, they won’t sound like idiots.

Promise to be smart for them!

Be specific in your directions!  This will help your guests to arrive in time to help weed the pepper patch.

How exactly could you resist an invitation such as this?

But remember  – there will aways be people who are threatened by your genius.

But you’re friendly so go ahead and invite them anyway!

It’s just not that hard to give them a faulty map.


  • Darn….for a moment thee I thought you were hosting a Rechelle Unplugged party…I was about to load the car up and drive 10 hrs for some brats… I guess we can have a party here on your blog everyday without having to go anywhere.

  • I wanna go! Invite me, invite me, invite me! I’ll bring the most fabulous of fabulous side dishes, & a beverage so icy that Satan himself (if he were to exist) would decide to switch from fire to ice!

  • Heidi:

    It’s a good thing I’m not invited; I only make mediocre side dishes.

    I can do some good desserts, though.

  • LucyJoy:

    FABULOUS! I’m always making maps, too…Of course, not to scale…I can’t resist. And the RSVP thing, yeah, we do that too. It’s always nice to know how many ‘burgers or what-have you, to fix….

  • Kay in KCMo:

    Wait, wait…chocolate whipped cream with booze?!? Where does a person find such a concoction?

    I make fabulous cookies. Are cookies considered a side dish? Otherwise it’s mediocre city.

  • Spinny:

    I, too, would like to know the origins of chocolate whipped cream with booze and where I may procure some for myself.

  • Martha in Kansas:

    I make fabulous deviled eggs. I’m sure my invitation is on the way, right???? LOL!

    Boozy chocolate whipped cream sounds fabulous. My theory – it comes from drunken brown cows.

  • I’m totally stealing your idea for my next get together! Thanks for sharing and for “keeping it real.”

  • AnnB:

    ….go without me. I’m holding out for
    Cassie’s Christmas Party.

  • Cassie C.:

    That’s a smart decision AnnB! Sadly, i was unable to make it to Rechelle’s wonderful, (yet still inferior to my amazing christmas party) get-together. I got to sit in traffic for 2 hours instead, waiting for an accident to be cleared off the highway. I only hope Rechelle will forgive me!

    • Rechelle:

      We missed you Cassie. It hardly seemed like a party at all – and there weren’t enough of us to bully Melissa into telling her Bill Murray story again.

  • M.R.:

    My devilled eggs are even better than Martha’s! I also make a wonderful red cabbage cole slaw. Or how about a fabulous cheesy squash casserole that even non-squash eaters like if you don’t tell them it is squash first.

    I have to confess that it took me a few minutes before I realized that Rechelle had created this invitation. I thought at first that maybe her youngest son did it.

  • Cassie C.:

    It didn’t seem like a party because there wasn’t any booze infused whipped cream!

  • MidwestIrish:

    Reading your blog on & off for …oh heck I don’t recall. Figured the area in which you live (I used to live there)…but about fell out of my chair when I saw this invite…you live right around the corner from some very dear friends!

    LOVE the invitation – I like the if you don’t RSVP you don’t get to eat comment. I am sooooooooooooo stealing that one!