Blink, A Giveaway and Thin Slicing Sandra Bullock

March 22nd, 2010


I read the book “Blink” by Malcolm Gladwell over spring-break and I CAN’T STOP TALKING ABOUT IT! It’s almost like the holy spirit has filled me with a missionary zeal to spread the gospel of Blink to the nations!

The book Blink primarily focuses on the topic of human instincts and how we have a tendency to go to great lengths to not rely on them when we should and to rely on them when we shouldn’t. Humans have all these bodily mechanisms naturally selected over millions of years of evolution to protect us from making bad decisions. Mechanisms like sweaty palms, anxiety, nausea, goosebumps, colon spasms, sphincter twitches, fluttering eyelids, facial ticks, esophageal expulsions, rectum rumblings, gurgling bellies, ringing ears, hair that won’t lie flat, uni-brows, spontaneous lactation, late night snacking, bladder bombs and even the occasional combustible bowel. All these mechanisms are constantly sending us signals about the world around us, but all too often, we choose to completely ignore them and wait to make our decisions based on lab results, further testing, instruction manuals, surveys, statistics, books, opinion polls, sidewalk sales and what other people tell us. 

Okay, okay… Gladwell doesn’t actually use bladder explosions, spontaneous lactation, combustible bowels or hair that won’t lie flat for his examples. But it would have been slightly more interesting if he had.

Let’s take facial expressions for instance…

According to Gladwell’s book, people who study facial expressions - really study them – seem to have psychic abilities. They can study your face (even just a photo!) and tell you things about yourself that would seem impossible. Since the 1980′s, Dr. John Gottman has been studying the faces of married couples in his ‘love lab’ near the University of Washington. Gottman and his staff record the facial expression of a married couple in an hour long conversation and can predict with 95% accuracy whether or not a marriage will end in divorce. 95%! They don’t even need to listen to the VOICES of the couple they are studying! Gottman has become so good at reading facial expressions, that he can watch a couple from across a restaurant and predict whether or not their marriage is destined for divorce. The facial expression that highly favors the outcome of divorce? Contempt. If contempt appears frequently on the face of one member of a marriage – it is much more likely to fail.  Gottman calls his intense examination of facial expression – thin slicing.  

As I read this book, various episodes throughout my life flashed through my mind. I thought back to the times I had money burning a hole in my pocket to buy furniture for my house and salespeople completely ignored me because they saw me pull up in a beat up station wagon and unload three small toddlers.  Their instincts told them that I was too poor to purchase anything and they shouldn’t waste their time on me. I thought about the daily stomach-ache I used to get when I read Pioneer Woman.  On an instinctual level, my body was telling me that I was being sold a story that insisted once too often that it was truly authentic. If I had just listened to my twisted intestines, I would have wasted much less time attempting to model my own blog on the carefully contrived image of PW and wandered off much sooner in my own decidedly hostile direction.   

The same type of instinctual physical reactions frequently happened to me as I struggled with Christianity.  As I participated in church services, committee meetings, reading the bible, and teaching Sunday school – I would often feel exhausted afterwards or I would get a stomachache or just feel like something wasn’t quite right.  My instincts were trying to tell me one thing, but they had to overcome my brain that knew the ‘facts’.  The facts that I considered to be the unassailable truth like the existence of god and the inerrancy of the bible. Like so many people, I don’t trust my instincts enough when I should and I trust them too much when I shouldn’t.  

The research and stories in Gladwell’s book are fascinating. He writes about police work gone fatally wrong due to cops reacting incorrectly to a frightened suspect, because they are frightened themselves and because cops in groups tend to react with a mob mentality (as opposed to a cop that is working alone).  He writes about soldiers succeeding in jungle environments where they learn to completely rely on their instincts and ignore the misleading intelligence they are receiving from their superiors for the sake of survival. He writes about art experts detecting forgeries within seconds due to a ‘wave of revulsion’ reaction that long precedes the scientific testing and close examination upon which museums insist. Gladwell has created a fascinating book about how, when and why people should trust their instincts and ignore their brains.  Because  it turns out – our instincts ARE our brains.  They are the first reaction of our brains.  We just aren’t very good at interpreting what they are telling us.  

I found the following video of Sandra Bullock at the Oscars. The film has been slowed down enough so that the viewer is able (in a manner of speaking) to thin slice Bullock’s facial reaction towards her philandering husband, Jesse James – even though the press had yet to break the story.  It would seem that her joy at winning an Oscar is severely diminished by an entirely different emotion. I’m not Dr Gottman, but it looks like contempt to me. And James deserves every bit of it.  

For a chance to win my copy of ‘Blink’ by Malcolm Gladwell – just leave a comment.  

I will draw a winner Tuesday evening.  

Like Aquinas and Calvin, I reserve the right to burn heretical duplicate entries at the stake.

Comments

  • km:

    Dear Much Appreciated Blogger, I would love this book. I am enjoying your true voice and I am enjoying your followers comments. My gut told me to stick around, and I never ignore anything that big:)
    xxx

  • That book ring is cool! Can I ask where was that taken?

    And this book sounds really interesting. I’d love to read it!

  • Kelley – it was taken at the public library across from the KC plaza.

  • Ooo! This is on my reading list! Would love to win!

    Love the pic of the boys too. Where is that? (I wonder what Gladwell would say about the looks on their faces?)

  • meme:

    I noticed when Sandra won she didn’t look too happy. Chalked it up to jitters.

  • Bdaiss – Ha! Very funny. We are at the library on the KC plaza and I think the thin slice of expression on the boys is boredom.

  • I’ve seen this book in the bookstore, and several times contemplated buying it. I’d love to win it!

    I didn’t watch the Oscars, but watching that video it’s obvious something’s not right. Or is it just because I know now?

  • Looks like an interesting book. If I don’t win, I just may get it on my Kindle. As for Sandra’s facial expression, it looks to me like she’s trying to contain tears of happiness. Then again, what the hell do I know?

  • Shelly:

    Sounds like at Great book!

  • I’d love to have this book! Gladwell’s books, including The Tipping Point, have been on my to-read list for a long time!

  • km – Thanks for the LOL!

    Cat

  • Jay:

    I haven’t read the book, but I did see The Human Face last year thanks to Netflix. Its a documentary hosted by John Cleese. It discusses the same kinds of things that the book seems to about facial expressions. It looks at different angles too, such as following the story of a little girl who was born without being able to change her facial expressions at all, and a young man who’s brain could not interpret other peoples facial signals. I don’t remember all of the details, but I wouldn’t be surprised if Gladwell was one of the people they interviewed. I do seem to remember something about studying married peoples facial expressions at a lab on the west coast. If you enjoyed the book, then I recommend you give this documentary a look.

    http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0280262/

  • I think her facial expression is more sadness then contempt. I hope she dumps him hard. He’s a liar and a cheat and how could you ever trust someone like that again.
    I’d love to read this book.

  • Tracie in Washington:

    Sounds like a great book, I am just now trying to listen to what my body is telling me. It was trying to tell me something for the last eight years while I was married to a not so great guy. I have listened to my screaming stomach/head aches and kicked him to the curb I feel better physically not to mention emotionally.

  • It sounds like a really good read.

  • Ooooh, I want to win! I read “The Tipping Point” – also very good.

  • Jenny:

    Looks more like this is supposed to be one of the happiest moments of my life and I have to share it with this lying cheat who is sitting next to me. I would be very surprised if she didn’t already know at the oscars. I would love to read the book.

  • Shelly:

    I love the study of facial expressions. It’s amazing what truth our bodies possess and we don’t even know it. Thanks for showing us this book.

  • Stupid Idea:

    Very interesting!

    Oddly enough, when I watched the oscars, after Sandra Bullock finished her speech, I looked at my husband and said, “Well, that was weird. What’s going on with her and Jesse?” Then a week or two later he told me about Jesse cheating.

  • Katrina:

    I read the Tipping Point as well and loved it! I’m thinking of re-reading it (I’d have to re-buy it since I was a poor college student and sold the book as I needed the money for “college things” …haha) But I’ve been meaning to get Blink and The Tipping Point again! Thanks for the analysis! I will probably buy it even if I don’t win :)

  • birdgirl:

    I watched Sandra Bullock’s oscar speech and she referred to her husband as “that” and I haven’t heard any comments about that so far. I thought that that was and odd way to refer to her “loving” husband. Anyone else notice it?

  • leslie:

    Sounds like an interesting book. I’m in!

  • PJS:

    I watched the Oscars and her expession struck me as very odd at the time. I noticed in photos taken after her win, that she didn’t seem to be looking Jesse straight in the eyes, but rather focused somewhere around his chin. He he a slime ball. Also saw him ushering his youngest daughter through a parking lot (on one of the entertainment shows – lol – I admit to watching late-night) after the story broke. He grabbed the top of his daughter’s head to steer her in the direction he was walking, she was veering off, and he did it rather roughly and the look on his face was quite scary. It just did not set right with me.

  • Suzanne:

    When I watched her reaction live I thought it was strange. I feel so bad for her. I hope she doesn’t give up.

  • I second Jay’s recommendation of “The Human Face.” It is Dr. Gottman that is interviewed for that, I thought it was so interesting!

  • pam:

    It sounds like it should be a high school text book.

  • Suzanne:

    I mean don’t give up on men, life, movies etc. On Jesse I am hoping she already has given up. From my own experience once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater.

  • Joel Wheeler:

    Rechelle you are a fascinating individual. While I would love to win, I’ve already added your recommendation to my Amazon cart.

    Books rule.

  • Kansas Girl:

    Sandra’s facial expression may not have been quite right, but that dress? She ROCKED the Oscars with that dress. She’ll come out just fine. Jesse, on the other hand, not so much. Entitlement gets ‘em every time!

    I would love to spend some time in that book! I teach (gasp) public school and I am telling you that a person can learn a lot by watching faces.

  • Priss:

    I’d like to win this for my daughter. She found out yesterday that her boyfriend has cheated on her. For a long time she hasn’t completely trusted him, but then she’d make up justifications for his behavior and decide she was the one who was in the wrong for being doubtful about him. After she found out about his cheating she was saying how she’s got to learn to trust her instincts. I’m glad to know about this book and will get it for her anyway if I’m not the winner, so thanks for the review, Rechelle.

  • Char:

    I agree with Jenny, I think she looks so sad as in this should be one of the happiest moments of her life and she only has a rotten cheating husband sitting beside her instead of the light of her life.

  • Mindy:

    Poor Sandra.

    I am not good at reading facial expressions. My husband is wonderful at it. Apparently that’s why I always lose to him at cards. Maybe I should practice.

  • Not too long ago I read a book called “A Mind of Its Own: How Your Brain Distorts and Deceives” by Cordelia Fine. It sounds like it is on the same kind of premise. I think you would enjoy this book too. The brain is a marvelous piece of work, but it has been shaped over several hundred of thousands of years, some beneficial some detrimental when it comes to understanding our surroundings and reality.

    Thanks for bring this up!!

  • AnnB:

    I love Malcolm G- sign me up. I am ALL about listening to my womenly instinct.

  • Kathy H.:

    The book sounds fascinating, although probably not as interesting as reading your blog has been for me! Thanks for the giveaway.

  • sign me up, I’d love to read it.

  • Procrastamom:

    Great book recommendation! I’ve added it to the post-it note of books to read that I carry with me everywhere.

    My husband and I (we’re Atheists) had to attend a service and baptism of a family member on Saturday night. Everyone in that room probably could have read what I thought of the whole show from the expression on my face. Stand up to sing, sit down and pray, stand up-we’re singing again, more singing, sing, sing, pray, loooooong sermon, sing, sing, baptism, RUN to car in parking lot. My favourite part was the free coffee and parodying the songs in the car on the way home.

  • I am going to agree with you on this one. Wow! She did have some remarkable expressions that night.

    That is a really cool photo of the boys.

  • Kay in KCMO:

    What, no Le Creuset dutch oven?! ;-) (I didn’t read the previous posts, so my apologies to anyone who might’ve said this earlier. I’m not copying. Promise.)

    I have “The Tipping Point” and “What the Dog Saw”, but never got around to getting “Blink”. I’m in!

  • Erin from Iowa:

    This is so interesting. Please throw my name in the hat.

  • I recently read the tipping point. most of it was very interesting. sign me up!

  • Elaine:

    Makes perfect sense to me… we often give away hints about ourselves without even realizing it.

    I would love to read and own the book!

  • Cathy:

    One word. Botox.

  • ann:

    That is a cool photo. I feel bad for Sandra Bullock when I look at that picture. I didn’t watch that night, but that expression says a lot.
    I keep telling my daughters taht they MUST listen to their instincts. Especially when they get to college. I would have saved myself lots of trouble if I had. Oh well, live and learn.

  • KSMom:

    I think you’d like Gavin deBecker’s books as well; he has long advocated listening to our gut instincts. “The Gift of Fear” and “Protecting the Gift” are excellent.

  • Carry:

    Wow, that sounds like a book I could use. I’m very trained at ignoring what my body tells me.

    Either way, a copy of that book is coming home with me. Thanks a LOT for reviewing it!

  • JJ:

    Sounds good – I will add it to my book list – your book recommendations have never steered me wrong.

  • Lori:

    Yep, looks like contempt to me… So sad her big moment was ruined by such a jerk.

  • Martha in Kansas:

    I get so frustrated with myself because trusting my instincts seems to be something I have to learn over and over. I seem doomed to committing the same errors multiple times, when looking back I can clearly see how obviously my reaction ignored clear signs. Would love to read this book!

  • tony:

    my wife is good at translating body language.
    i on the other hand could use the book.

  • Matt Bob:

    I’m a new reader of yours and enjoy your spin on thing. Thanks for your continued honesty.

  • sandy:

    I never win anything, but you can enter my post. Love your blog Rechelle…..I hope you keep writing.

  • Rechelle first let me just say this Jesse ain’t got nobody’s back. He might be riding someone from back but ….

    Second of all I love Malcom Gladwell. Read What The Dog Saw if you haven’t yet and Outliers. He is so interesting.

    Oh and three or is it “C” anyway… I was just wondering if you got snow this weekend? For the end of springbreak and all ?

  • Freth:

    “Blink” sounds like an interesting book …
    I think handwriting analysis is also a fun way to learn more about people.

  • JennyME:

    I’ve been wanting to read this book for awhile–thanks for the review. I wish they taught classes on this kind of thing in school. I had a bad feeling about my last job during the interview but ignored it and accepted the position. Fast-forward 2.5 years and I found myself barely able to drag myself out of bed to go to work, and my stomach was always hurting so badly I could barely eat. I finally got a clue and quit that stupid job and have been pain-free ever since.

  • M.R.:

    Sounds interesting. Choose me! Otherwise, I’ll put it on my library wish list.

  • Tracy:

    I’ve been enjoying your posts about atheism and find myself reading them to my husband often. He is struggling right now with his religion and how things just don’t add up; I have probably always been a silent atheist. Thanks for some of the links and for actually THINKING. (That doesn’t seem to happen much anymore!)

  • Amy in Atlanta:

    Count me in! Hope I win!

  • MichelleG:

    Interesting…on the other hand, as usual, the man is completely oblivious to HER facial expressions. He just smiles….doesn’t he realize that is the look of a woman who is capable of removing his penis???

  • Brian V.:

    Poor dear Rechelle, why on earth would you think we need any of these silly non-fiction or fiction books? We have the B-I-B-L-E already and as the dear Sunday School song goes: The BEE-I-BEE-ELL-EEEE, yes, that’s the book for me, I’ll stand alone on the WORD OF GOD, the B-I-B-L-E!
    You just keep your heathen rubbish. MOCK NOT (or you will be phoned.)

  • How much of the Sandra Bullock video was contempt and how much was an unwillingness to smear a perfect application of lipstick? This is important in determining the success probabilities of my own marriage.

    On an entirely different topic, one of our local papers is running a series on gangs and gang activity. They described gang conflicts as arising out of conflicts in values, beliefs, and territories. I mentioned to my son that, by this definition, organized religions can be said to be involved in gang conflict.

  • Homa Lewis:

    Have you seen the tv show with Tim Roth as a facial profiler? Can’t remember the name of it right now.

    Pick me!

  • M. Stephenson:

    This book sounds great; if I don’t win I will definitely put it on my wishlist at the library. Keep at it with your blog; I love the direction it has taken.

  • Amy N:

    On my list; would love to read it!

  • Jenny:

    Birdgirl,
    I went on to look at Sandra’s acceptance speech and I was reading all kinds of things into it, as in her referring to him as “that.” It seemed like the whole speech had undertones in it to make him feel bad. But, who really knows. The one thing that really jumped out at me was how did this beautiful, intelligent, articulate woman end up with him? And, his children finally had a stable female role model in their lives, and he managed to screw that up too.

  • Nancy:

    My! You DO get some interesting comments here, don’t you? LOL!

    I am a fairly new reader of your blog but I’m loving it! I can definitely read people better than my husband, but I just wish I would listen to my own instincts more often!! I would love to read that book!

  • LucyGolden:

    I love the book sculpture; awesome!

    “Blink” sounds very interesting…I told my husband several years ago, that his best friends girl friend didn’t seem too interested in him (the friend). Every time she talked to him, she’d cross her arms. It wasn’t too long after that that they broke up. Sometimes it’s just a matter of paying attention!

    I didn’t see the Oscar’s, but the look on Sandra’s face tells volumes!

  • Ted Powell:

    Michael Shermer has written a very positive review of Blink, You Can Judge This Book by its Cover:

    As a skeptical scientist, I have always treated with disdain the notion that one can intuit a truth about reality. Scientists should employ the logic of Mr. Spock, the deductive reasoning of Mr. Holmes, and the rational calculus of Mr. Data. Hunches, guesses, insights, feelings, and intuitions lead to misdirection and error. Thinking things through rationally and systematically is the royal road to reality.Well, I was wrong. It turns out there’s a lot more to thinking than meets the experimental eye, and Malcolm Gladwell has penned an absolutely delightful summary of all the important research in the study of intuition. His title, Blink, is apt, for we humans have a remarkable — and heretofore unproven — capacity for making judgments in the metaphorical blink of an eye that are often superior to those we might have made had we taken the time to assess all possible variables.…Gladwell is presenting science at level three [essays, articles, and books by journalists and science writers for completely uninformed readers], where it is most needed, and where good writing is most vital. He has the ability to synthesize a large body of scientific data into a highly readable, page-turning narrative, and to convert the raw numbers of research and statistics into meaningful facts for our personal lives. I thought he did this brilliantly with The Tipping Point, and I think he does it even better in Blink. For this feat all of us in the scientific community should be grateful, because the craft of writing good science is just as important as the skill of producing good science.

    So, please add me to the list!

  • Liz:

    Wow, I need to read this book! Rechelle, I so admire how you are thinking and what you are writing these days, and so glad to have you back. Keep it up/1

  • Liz:

    Sorry, definitely bad punctuation – will blame my bad wrist! There, an exclamation point is what I meant to put at the end.

  • So, if the book is true, when my stomach starts fluttering, my teeth are gritted and my bowels feel watery, I should not take immodium, and xanax and go with my feelings?
    Good thing to know!

    Great shot of ‘CONTEMPT’……
    A celebrity analyst reported Sandra’s Oscar acceptance speech was dripping with sarcasm. I didn’t catch but I’m not trained at such things. I’m more of a make him sorry for the rest of his life type of woman….

  • I’ve got nothing to say about the book, but that book circle is an awesome statue :-)

  • I have to say that I was thinking she didn’t look that happy with him that night at the Oscars, and that she didn’t thank him in her speach, which is what they always tend to do (mention their spouse). Then, when the story broke afterward it made complete sense to me.

  • JaznJapan:

    Watching that clip made me so sad. What should have been such a wonderful moment for her was overshadowed by sorrow.
    I would so love to read this book….so I will be purchasing it from Amazon if I’m not the lucky one.
    BTW….I truly enjoy your blog!

  • aproustian:

    Homa Lewis, it’s called “Lie to Me” and it’s a very good show.

  • Kathy from NJ:

    I still read you every day, just don’t comment (anywhere) much. But count me in.

  • AC:

    I already own this, so please skip over me in the whole thing.

    I didn’t watch the Oscars because every year it seems to grow like Kirstie Alley’s ass (and before people start jumping on that comment, chill a bit, will ya, since she pokes fun at herself about it). Sandra’s “I could kill you while you’re sleeping” look is amazing: sad and contemptuous at the same time. And that’s hard to pull off, really, so I guess it’s good that she won best actress, since she gave an Oscar-worthy performance of someone who actually wanted to be there at the ceremony rather than someone who wanted to be at home shredding her soon-to-be-ex’s clothes, cutting his head out of any photos, and keying his no doubt very expensive ride, all the while dreaming up ways to cut him into tiny pieces without getting caught. Or maybe she’s not quite that venomous. But still, can’t you picture her in a rage like that?

  • I would totally LOVE to read this!

  • bPer:

    When I first saw the title of this post, I thought it was referring to Blink, my favorite Dr. Who episode, from the third series starring David Tennant. Not your typical Dr. Who. You can watch the episode here, but remember – don’t blink!.

    βPer

  • Maria:

    Wow, the book sounds fascinating. I’m always in for a good read, especially since I’m constantly wondering about seemingly unimportant bodily features like sweaty palms and goosebumps — these things don’t keep me awake at night, but it’s still one of those “Hey, why IS that?” moments for me every now and then. Oh, and while I admire Sandra Bullock, her talent and overall confidence and attitude, she sure can pick ‘em. Jesse James is a first class douche. Ugh.

  • Ann S:

    Pick ME!!!!

  • cath:

    Oh…I’d love a copy of this book. I’d also love the book sculpture at the beginning of this entry too. CAn that be the next giveaway, please?

  • pamcake:

    The video was very telling. It is very interesting stuff. I am always aware of what “my gut” tells me. The hard part definitely is trusting it and acting accordingly. Love this blog and hope to read the book.

  • Carol:

    I’ve read it, recommend it, and think you should take the implicit assumption. A great deal of the book also deals with racism and other judgments based on appearance that are dead wrong, and frequently deadly. Your gut will also tell you what you have been conditioned to believe. In this, we are conditioned to believe that Ms. Bullock didn’t have botox in the above video, that she didn’t know and not care about Mr. James’ outside activities, and she is blameless. None of us are in their marriage. He may really have her back, and they may have an open relationship. Admitting this would be the kiss of death on her career. She may simply be pissed that he got found out. And, the trope that once a cheater always a cheater is terrible. It allows no chance for growth and sincere repentance. They also are sharing the raising of children, and for the children’s sake, I hope that they can work things out, that through this the children learn that with love and work, relationships can overcome (maybe) terrible things.

    And really, none of our business. I wonder how many celebrity marriages could be saved if everything wasn’t so dang public and exposed with people yelling how sexual infidelity is the WORST THING EVER! I can think of worse.

  • Carol:

    Implicit assumption test.

  • Rhonda H.:

    I’ve wanted to read this one for a while, but just haven’t got around to it. My agnostic roots are digging the “truth” that is your blog, as opposed to the sugar-coated “ain’t my life grand” garbage out there. Thanks for being you Rechelle!

  • Tracy:

    I would love to read the book! Yes, that was contempt on her face and he certainly deserves it.

  • Lily Hill:

    Love your blog and would love to win this book. Lie to Me is a great show!

  • Chris:

    I started to follow you when PZ Myers mentioned your recent conversion and I’ve been silently loving you sense (Your in my google reader). I will make my first post (an attempt) to win stuff :)

  • birdgirl:

    Jenny,
    I re-watched Sandra’s acceptance speech just now. Wow. Poor thing. Her sister has written a book. My daughter read it. Her sister used to work for her but left that life and opened a bakery. I can’t remember the name of the book or the name of her sister but I’m sure you could google it if you are interested.

  • I’d like to win your book and good for you for sticking to your guns…take care

  • birdgirl:

    Jenny,
    SB’s sisters name is Gesine Bullock-Prado. Her book is called: Confections of a Closet Master Baker.

  • Love the picture of your boys with the books! They are an adorable crew.

    The Sandra Bullock clip is interesting. He must really be a damn fool. I saw a pic of the alleged mistress, and she had a lot of tattoos… not that that’s a bad thing, but I’ve always though Sandra has a lot of class.

    I read “The Tipping Point” by Gladwell many years ago – it was great!

  • efrique:

    I looked at that ring of books with fascination and sadness (because I couldn’t help but imagine spotting the spine of some book I’d love to read… and having the torture of not being able to read it.

    [Please don't consider me for your prize. I will keep my eye out for the book, but it would cost you too much to send it all the way over here. I'd rather you not be stuck with sending it to someone on the other side of the world.]

  • I have this book, and while I’m finding it hard to find time to sit down and finish it, so far I’m loving it. I found the relationship studies at UW really interesting too!

  • Wow! Saw that look the night of the Oscars, but didn’t understand it. Watching again in today’s context clarifies. Please drop my name in the hopper for the book!

  • Nancy in AK:

    I read Tipping Point, but not Blink, so I would love to win!

  • Sandra could have had a headache…
    I am sure the day’s preparation for an oscar nominee is stressful, I get headaches and make faces like that even when I am ecstatic, so who knows.

    Besides, I doubt Jesse would have been in such a visually good mood if it was all going down then. Hell, my husband is a wreck if I am even remotely unhappy in the slightest bit. And, don’t forget Sandra’s an actress, so she could act happy as hell, even if she was downright fuming. I put my buck fitty on her just not feeling well.

    If I don’t win the book, I may just buy it for my husband, he needs the help!

  • eclecticdeb:

    I’d love to read the book.

  • Meanie:

    I disagree with one poster about SB’s husband’s facial expression. He may be smiling, but the smile does not extend to his eyes. Forced smile, if you ask me. Definitely something going on there. Now I’m off to Netflicks to find that faces documentary (added bonus: John Cleese, who doesn’t like him?).

  • Clementine:

    Yes, I’d love to have this book. I’m going to check out his other works also. Thanks!

  • Action Squirrel:

    Oo I have wanted to read this! I think I’ll have to download it myself, though. I love trying to read body language.

  • Kristin:

    After reading an article about Calvin last night (that burning at the stake is SO Christian), I’d love to read Blink.

  • flutterby:

    I was watching Sandra’s husband’s facial expression first and my thought was he just whispered something really nasty and mean to her in her moment of triumph. Yes, her look was one of pure contempt.

  • Jan:

    Hot damn but you are so INTERESTING anymore

  • Besty:

    Thanks

  • Tami C:

    Pick me, pick me!

  • Dominique:

    I’m going to go on a limb here and say that she didnt know yet.

    Considering that she threw his ass out, (or she left, whichever it is) after the news broke out, I think it’s safe to say that she didnt know yet he had cheated, or else she wouldnt have taken him to the Oscars. Yes she does look sad. Maybe she suspected something. But I dont think she knew or else he wouldnt have been there.

  • caracakes:

    Oh how I love a good book!

  • Sheila:

    Sounds like a good read—please enter me to win!

    skkorman AT bellsouth DOT net

  • I’d love to have a copy of the book – please?!

  • Another book along these lines is Protecting the Gift by Gavin De Becker. It’s fascinating what we’ve been conditioned/trained to ignore from ourselves. Oprah describes it as “the voice of God” while, since I’m an atheist, I’ve tied it to my deep faith and figured it into my daily program.

    Yes I am a very strange atheist with actually more faith than most people I know, just not in a God. :)

  • Stacy:

    Really sad situation and I also thought her speech had some subliminal messages…would love to read the book. Also want to say you are very brave to come out with the truth about your marriage, your beliefs etc….I think when we women get to a certain age it really doesn’t matter what other people think anymore.

  • Nici:

    Would love to read the book, please sign me up. I found your blog over a year ago (from Pioneer Woman’s site) still hangin in there with you…

  • Beth:

    Would love to read that book. I am one of those people, however, (my poor little daughter, too) whose “natural” expression is glum and serious. We have dark eyebrows! I can be checking out with my groceries, perfectly content and the cashier will pop up with, “why so glum?! Can’t be all that bad!” and I’m all like, “huh? Oh. No, I’m fine! [fake cheery/scary smile].

    I haven’t watched the Sandra video yet (I’m @ work) and didn’t watch the Oscars, but in every picture of her from that night, I thought at the time, “she looks sad and distracted.” I thought it was nerves, too, like another poster, but probably she already knew.

    [Rechelle, typo in your last sentence. "entires" :-)] What? I can’t help it; I’m an editor!!

  • I was a bit worried about being burned at the stake, but I assume that a heretical (or at least apostate) single entry is still okay, right?

    ::glances down at flames::

    Right?

  • Jennifer:

    You know, I watched a lot of the Oscars, but missed her speech. Had I seen that moment live, I’m positive I would have been wondering “what the hell was THAT look?” Because that was one. deadly. look.

    Never read Blink, even though it was recommended to me since I work in advertising. Winning a copy would be great. Thanks for the chance.

  • Fingers are crossed!

  • Vee:

    I would love to read that book. On another note, I have been loving your blog lately, glad you dumped the need to be like PW.

  • Jenny:

    Birdgirl,

    Thanks for the info on the book. I will check it out.

  • ooo! I am commenting. And continuing to love your blog.

  • Cathy:

    I read your blog religiously! That book sounds interesting. I work in a high school library and I’m wondering if it might be a good resource for a research paper. I’m always looking for new and different topics to have available for the students.

  • I noticed the look and the lack of “husband Acknowledgment” in her speech and I KNEW, I just KNEW he was screwing around with some tatoo-ed, publicity hungry floozy.

  • Wasn’t he married when she got him?
    Goes-around-comes-around…….

  • Sounds like an interesting book. Would love to read it and learn more about reading people. Have met some lately, that if I’d only known …….

  • PICK ME! PICK ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • marcia:

    love the book sculpture pix

  • Mike:

    Outliers is great, too. And Gladwell is a Canuck, eh?